Dear Birth Mother,
My name is Trish and I am writing to you on behalf of my husband Michael and myself. We hope this letter will give you a sense of who we are and how much we dream of sharing our life with a child. We realize that your adoption decision is filled with pain and uncertainty – and motivated by love and sacrifice. We hope that this small glimpse into our lives will help to assure you that we would view parenting your child as the greatest gift we could ever hope for.
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Mike and I have been married for twenty years. We have a happy and peaceful marriage that grows deeper with each passing year. We very much enjoy each other’s company and spend a great deal of time laughing… usually at each other. Mike and I are different in personality and demeanor but share similar values and goals. When we married, we just assumed that someday children would follow. But that never happened and after several years of failed infertility treatments, we are now looking forward to adopting a child. At this point in our lives, we dream of being parents.
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 ABOUT MICHAEL
It takes a bit of time to get to know Michael but is worth the effort. People seem to sense his kind and generous nature that shines through his shyness. He is very soft-spoken and endlessly patient. Our smallest cousins love to climb onto his lap with their favorite storybook and stuffed animal in tow. Michael seems to shine when his arms are encircling a child. I know that his quiet and gentle way with children will make him an amazing dad.
Mike loves music – all kinds. I’m always amazed at his ability to hear a song on the radio for the first time, pick up his guitar and play it. He designed and built our home and now works to finish this on-going project. Our home is a wonderful sanctuary that he has created for us. Mike is self-employed; we own a wholesale food distributorship and he works just two days a week. We are thrilled that Michael will have so much time to spend caring for our baby.
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 ABOUT TRISH
It’s difficult to describe myself but I guess what I most want you to know is that I strive to be a kind and considerate person in all things that I do. I care deeply and provide well for those I love. My loyalty to people in my life is unwavering. My family and friends fill my life with happiness. My heart tells me that part of the reason that I was put on this earth was to love and care for a child.
I’m very physically fit – enjoy running, hiking, reading, cooking and entertaining friends and family. I’m more outgoing than Mike – we seem to provide balance to each other’s personalities. I have a great job as an Ultrasound Technologist just four miles from home. After we adopt a baby, I will stay home full-time for the first few months and will then return to work three days a week. Mike will be at home on those days, loving his new role as a dad. We are grateful that our jobs will allow us to care for a child ourselves, in our home, without needing outside child-care help.
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Our household also includes two very important other members. We share our lives with a ten-year old whippet (looks like a small greyhound), Lucy. She is our pride and joy and a very gentle soul. Because we are passionate about being outdoors and are great nature lovers, we spend a great deal of time hiking through woods and forests with Lucy. (We recently wondered just how many miles we’ve trekked in the last decade – too many to count!) And we are most fortunate to share our home with Madeline, Mike’s mom. Madeline has a separate in-law apartment in our basement. She, like Mike, is a bit shy at first but she is truly one of the kindest and most nurturing people that I’ve ever met. Her presence in our lives is a wonderful treat. Madeline takes great care of us all. She enjoys excellent health and spends countless hours walking Lucy. Madeline "spoils" us with wonderful meals and our house is continuously filled with the aroma of her delicious creations. Everyone that visits us remark that they want their "own" Madeline and can she come home with them! She greatly enriches our life with all that she does for us and a more caring grand-mother couldn’t be found. We look forward to giving Madeline the precious gift of a new grand-child that she will cherish and love.
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Our home and our backyard
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Our home is in a very quiet neighborhood this is formed by three cul-de-sacs and is surrounded by woods. The streets within the neighborhood are perfect for bike riding or just taking a walk for the areas many children. Madeline and Lucy are a familiar sight to our neighbors as they "tour" the neighborhood daily! The adoption agency that we are working with has completed a home study of our home and found it to be a safe and secure environment that is just waiting to be filled with the laughter of a child.
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Mike and I are products of parents that always put their families first. Madeline raised five sons alone after her husband’s death. She worked hard to provide for her family yet doesn’t view her efforts as any type of sacrifice on her part. My parents retired to Florida about twenty years ago and shortly thereafter my mom fell ill. My dad attended to her every need with endless tenderness and compassion until here death six months ago. I am honored to be his child.
Each year the warm weather of spring returns to New England and brings a very special gift to our lives. We have a summer cottage on a lake that is only ten miles from home. This cottage has been in my family for over one-hundred years. It is a kind of magical place in which time stands still. I grew up doing the same wonderful things that my parents and grand-parents did. My childhood summers were a whimsical time filled with swimming, boating, catching my first fish, and evenings illuminated with fireflies. The lake is a very special part of our lives that is filled with family and friends all summer long. Life there is casual – bathing suits and barbeques, sun-kissed cousins with wrinkled fingers from hours spent swimming. The magic of this simple place will continue for another generation when our baby experiences first-hand its wonder and delight.
 We view parenting as a unique opportunity to help guide a child as they journey through life. We feel education is key as it provides the ability to make choices in life – so important for happiness. We are already saving toward funding our child’s education and will be well-prepared financially when the time comes. We hope to instill in our child a life-long love of learning and to gently challenge them to be the most they can be. We want to celebrate their successes and console and support them when they encounter life’s inevitable bumps and bruises. We will parent with patience, consistency, and most importantly, presence. The gift of their time was the greatest gift my parents gave to me. They spent countless hours reading with me. My mom created beautiful tea-parties and my dad taught me how to throw a ball "not like a girl". We look forward to doing the same and more for our child.
I don’t know what circumstances have brought you to where you are in your life right now and I can only guess at how difficult and painful this is for you. But please know that your gift of life to your child is baby’s first gift of love. If something about my letter strikes a cord in your heart and you choose us to raise your child, we will always honor your gift of love. We promise to weave a tapestry of love throughout your child’s life with the first thread created by you. We will embrace this child and do all that we can to provide a wonderful life for them. We are happy to communicate with you in the future so that your heart will rest easy with your decision. If you would like to learn more about us or to arrange to speak with us, please call Cindy Simonson (anytime) at A Act of Caring (800) 556-5635.
We look forward so much to hearing from you. We wish you the best as you work through this difficult time.
Thoughtfully yours,
Trish and Michael
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