Dear Birthmother,

Our names are Beth and Joe. We are a happy, energetic couple that cares very much about the people around us. We like to make each other smile and laugh. We feel happy and fortunate to have found each other’s love, to share each other’s values and to appreciate each other’s humor. In our wedding vows we promised to share our lives with each other, enjoy our moments together, to listen and communicate, and to support each other throughout our lives.

We empathize with the enormity of your decision. We understand our responsibility and we will work hard to deserve your trust by giving your child a safe and happy home. We will give him/her tons of affection and attention, a good education, and lots of opportunities to have fun and enjoy life.

We would like to tell you a little more about ourselves so you can better understand who we are, what is important to us, and what our family will be like. Most importantly, we are two caring, cheerful, and active people. We are well-educated and financially secure. We take our responsibilities very seriously, but also understand the importance of having fun and enjoying life. We see life as an adventure, an opportunity to be with others, do things for others and explore the world around us. We also both really enjoy being in the company of children and interacting with them, and are anxiously looking forward to welcoming a child into our family.

When we met, we both realized very quickly that we had found a special person. Joe watched Beth drip ice cream down her shirt on their second date and just smiled. He taught her about jazz music and got her playing golf again. Beth took Joe hiking up mountains in New Hampshire. We traveled to Tanglewood and Montreal as well as local music venues. We quickly hit it off with each other’s families. For example, Beth’s father loves puzzles, and makes double acrostic puzzles for the family every year for Christmas – Joe surprised us all when he made one for Beth’s father when we got together at Thanksgiving. Beth won over Joe’s Mom, when she saw how much Joe was smiling.

We enjoy each other’s company. We play tennis and golf, and Beth is teaching Joe to play squash. We go hiking and biking and in the evenings we often go for walks and play pool or Mah Jongg. We also enjoy getting together with friends and frequently have people over for dinner. We look out for each other both in simple ways, like Joe making sure Beth’s supply of chocolate does not run dry, and in more important ways, like making sure our mate knows they are loved and trying to cheer them up if they are down.

We have three tabby cats, Marble, Milo and Otis that entertain us and keep us on our toes. Joe frequently wakes up in the morning with the oldest one, Marble, climbing onto his stomach for his morning scratch. Milo and Otis are brothers, brought home by Joe to keep Marble company.

Education is important to us. Both of us went to college and have graduate degrees, Joe with a Ph.D. in Computer Science and Beth a Masters in Public Policy. We are committed to providing our child the best education we can. We will frequently read to the child, help with homework and support and encourage him/her to foster curiosity and learning. The schools in our town are very good. We will also encourage our child in his/her other pursuits whether music, sports, carpentry or another activity.

We live in a four-bedroom house in the suburban Boston area. We have a mini-tennis court, sand box, and swing set in the backyard, a great place for a child (and adults) to play. Our neighborhood has many children of all ages. There is a neighborhood pool, where families get together in the summer. We have a strong network of friends that are important to us. Most of them have children and several are just starting their families as well. We have a fairly large extended family in which our child will grow up.

We chose adoption because we both knew we wanted to have a family. We tried to conceive on our own, but it was made clear to us after a few treatments, that the likelihood of us conceiving a child was very low. This was a heart-wrenching experience for us, but we also knew we had other options. Life is about having fun and caring about the people around you, and we see adoption as the best alternative for helping us to achieve the happiness we see in others who have been fortunate enough to start a family.

We will rely on available resources in our area to learn about parenting children throughout their years. We value respect, honesty and hard work and will try to develop these traits in our child. We will teach them right and wrong. We would like to raise our child in the Christian tradition. We feel that the moral and ethical teachings of the church, and the compassion and caring that come with belonging to a church community are important in life at all ages.

We understand that you have made a very difficult decision and are grateful for your consideration to provide a caring family to your child. We are willing to work with you to establish an open relationship, to whatever degree we mutually agree will be best for the child and all of us. We agree with the statement that there cannot be too many people that love your child.

We sincerely thank you for your consideration.

Beth is a very active, fun-loving person who is kind and considerate, with an impish sense of humor. She loves sports and games and currently plays on a women’s soccer team, at this point more for the fun and friends than the competition. She also plays squash and likes to cross country ski. She enjoys being outdoors, having spent many vacations backpacking in Colorado. In college she played field hockey and lacrosse. In restful times, Beth enjoys reading, cooking, knitting, and playing games.

Beth currently is a vice president of a small consulting company where she does economic forecasting. However, Beth is ready to become a parent and has told her company that she will need time off. She plans to stay home with the child, at least for the first year. She will then decide whether to go back part-time or to stay at home, with the possibility of starting a new career such as teaching when the child goes off to school.

Joe strongly believes that Beth has the qualities to be a great mother and parent for a child whom she’ll adore, protect and nurture. Her eyes sparkle and a smile crosses her face any time she lifts up a relative’s or friend’s young child and cuddles or speaks to them. When friends come to visit, she often plays with their children. Kids take to Beth and frequently end up sitting in her lap or giggling with her over silly jokes. Beth has always shown interest in her nieces’ school and social activities, will spend time sitting down with them for some “girl talk”, and is always willing to go out and kick a soccer ball around or go to the playground.

Beth volunteers for a youth organization, teaching middle-school students how to play squash, participating in community service projects with the team, and mentoring one of the team members. They usually just hang out and talk or dream up a fun activity like paint your own pottery or cooking a new dish.

Beth’s immediate family includes her sister Nancy with husband Tod and two girls, Holly (15) and Mandy (12), and her brother Peter and wife Sarah with their sons Peter (18) and Andrew (16). Beth’s parents live in Pennsylvania and are very much looking forward to being grandparents again (her Mom is already knitting). Beth also has many aunts, uncles and cousins that periodically try to get together.

Joe is a thoughtful, generous, smart man who is dedicated to everything he undertakes. One of his passions is playing the drums, an instrument he took up when he was twelve. Another one of Joe’s passions is golf. He also is a diehard Chicago Cubs fan and looks forward to the day they win the World Series (to his credit, he was very supportive when the Red Sox won the World Series).

He enjoys playing pool and collects coins. He also makes really good kielbasa (Polish sausage) from scratch from an old family recipe. Joe shares Beth’s impish sense of humor. He likes to affectionately tease her and enjoyed surprising her with his marriage proposal.
Joe is a computer software designer. He currently works for a small start-up company. He enjoys the puzzle of making a program work. Joe is a very thorough person. If he wants to learn about something, he will do research to learn more about the problem and talk to people for advice. I think this trait will serve us well in parenting

Beth thinks Joe will make an excellent father. I can tell by the way he enjoys spending time with our nieces and nephews and children of our friends. He is interested in engaging them and making them laugh. I have seen him play slam dunk basketball with a friend’s son and march around the table with him as part of a parade. I think he looks forward to spending time with our child, whether throwing a baseball, teaching him/her to putt a golf ball, or teaching him/her about music.

Joe is very caring to his family and friends, always willing to lend a hand and making sure that they have the support they need. He makes me feel very secure and special and I am sure he will do the same for our child.

Joe comes from a large Polish family that regularly gets together on the holidays to celebrate. His immediate family includes his two sisters Annette, with sons Brandon (14) and Patrick (10), and Suzanne and husband Dan, with identical twin sons Miles and Owen (3) and Alton (4 months), and his brother Dan. They all live in the Chicago area as does Joe’s Mom. Joe’s father sadly passed away in 1998. Joe also has many aunts, uncles and cousins living in the Chicago area. We try to get out to visit them several times a year and also enjoy having them visit us.

You can get in touch with us through Cindy Simonson (anytime) at A Loving Alternative, (800) 556-5635.

We hope that this challenging time will also bring about blessings, and perhaps we can be part of them.

All the best to you,

Joe and Beth

If you would like to learn more about us or to arrange an initial phone call please call Cindy (anytime) at A Act of Caring (800) 556-5635.

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