Dear Birthmother,

Your decision to place your child in the care of another family must be incredibly difficult, but please know there is not a greater gift you could ever give to a childless couple. It would be our greatest joy to welcome your child into our lives. Making an adoption plan for your baby is an act of love and we admire the strength and courage you possess to make this decision. We hope by reading our letter you will learn a little about us, and understand how committed we are to each other and to creating a family through adoption.

About Us
We are Maxine and Daniel from California. Maxine directs a dance company and teaches dance to children and Daniel is a composer. We met in an art museum when Maxine dropped some film all over the floor and Daniel helped her pick it up. We started talking and right away we knew we had a lot in common. Besides the arts, we both love spending time outdoors, hiking, picnicking and going to the beach. Daniel knew the right place to propose was on a mountain overlooking the ocean.

We share interests and values and delight in each other’s company. Not many couples can both work and play together but somehow it comes easily to us. Daniel enjoys making music for Maxine’s dance company. Maxine enjoys helping Daniel with his music projects. We know that these qualities of cooperation and collaboration will come in handy in our role as parents.

On weekends we often go on stairway walks up and down the hills of San Francisco. We love the views and exploring the nooks and crannies of different neighborhoods. One hobby we share is going to County Fairs. Maxine loves the animal exhibits and Daniel loves the rides. We look forward to sharing candy apples and kiddie rides and cotton candy with our little boy or girl.

Communication, trust, and kindness towards each other are the foundations of our marriage. We strive to always treat each other with compassion and understanding. Our struggle with infertility has brought us closer and taught us to listen to each other’s deepest desires. It has strengthened our commitment towards each other and made us understand there are many ways of being a family.

Daniel Describes Maxine
Maxine is a generous, enthusiastic, creative and capable woman. I am convinced Maxine would be a great mom. When we run into her students in the neighborhood their faces light up with excitement. Maxine truly loves children, as a young dancer in New York; she worked as a nanny and many years later, is still in touch with the children who were a part of her life. She now works as a dance teacher at the local elementary school and has taught dance to children from all walks of life.

As a child Maxine’s greatest love was horses. She owned and cared for two horses, they were her greatest friends and companions and she feels they taught her a lot about love and responsibility. Her second greatest love was reading. She still has many of her childhood books on her bookshelf and is looking forward to the day she can tuck our child into bed, take a book off the shelf, and read them a nice long bedtime story. Maxine has a LOT of energy, she is always dancing around the house, singing silly songs and can be pretty goofy. She is also a wonderful cook, and knows that healthy eating and exercise are important to growing kids.

Maxine can’t wait to be a stay at home mom. She already has so many fun activities planned including “Mommy and Me Music Classes”, time at the neighborhood playground, story time at the local library and just quiet time together.

When she is not working on dances for her dance company she can be found riding, exploring the great outdoors or curled up on the couch with a good book. Maxine has traveled a lot, both as a child and an adult. She has been to every continent except Australia.

Maxine describes Daniel
Daniel is playful and fun to be around. Like me he is good at being silly, and he is an expert at animal imitations. (Look at the photos at the end of this letter for some of animals that he likes to imitate) Daniel is intelligent and curious about the world. We do a lot of activities together and everything is twice as fun when he’s a part of it. He is great at seeing things from a kid’s perspective. Daniel enjoys exploring nature, whether it is a picnic in Golden Gate Park, hiking in nearby mountains, or snorkeling in Hawaii. As a child he played the guitar, piano, and saxophone. I know he is looking forward to the day he can teach an instrument to our little boy or girl. In fact he already has a colorful xylophone and a toy piano ready to go!

Daniel is always open to exploring new things, for example, I once slyly mentioned how nice it would be to be married to a man who could cook, soon after, I had to go out of town for a few days, and Daniel spent those evenings practicing different recipes so he could surprise me with his cooking talents when I returned! He has become a great cook and we now enjoy preparing meals together.

As well as writing music, Daniel works as a video technician in a large junior college, where his skills benefit students, teachers and staff. It makes him feel good to know that he is helping others.

What I truly love and respect about Daniel is his trustworthiness. He is the most trustworthy, responsible person I know. He is a very committed person and believes in treating others with respect and kindness. I know that with his kindness and patience (as well as his playfulness) he will be a great dad.

Family
We both enjoy spending time with our families. Thanksgiving is always a large affair with up to 30 cousins, aunts and uncles, lots of kids and older folk too, and everyone pitches in to help cook and clean up. In the summer time we often go either to the National Seashore where Maxine’s father and brother and his family spend the summer, or to the Catskills mountains where Daniel’s mother has a summer cabin. Either way, we know our child will have a lot of time with Grandma and Grandpa.

Where We Live
San Francisco is a very kid friendly city. Our home is walking distance to six different playgrounds! Among the many museums in our city are two devoted entirely to kids. The beach and the mountains are close by. We very much look forward to introducing a child to all a city can offer as well as sharing with them our love for the countryside.

Travel
Every year we like to take a trip, besides exploring America, we have visited Canada, Mexico, Italy, Bermuda, England and Scotland. As a little girl, Maxine traveled all over the world with her family. She has many wonderful memories of her family adventures. Learning about other places by visiting them was such a great opportunity for her, we can’t wait to introduce the world of travel to our child.

Parenting
We believe that spending time with a child is the most valuable thing you can do. We are committed to making parenting the number one priority in our lives. Daniel is lucky in having a flexible work schedule and Maxine plans on being a stay at home mom. We believe in the importance of education. We have a lot of gratitude that we were able to go to the college of our choice and want to extend that opportunity to the child in our lives. Our parents feel this way as well and are committed to setting up an education fund for the new baby.

Most importantly, we want our child to grow up to be a happy, secure individual, someone with a loving heart who is open and curious about the world. To this end we will strive to always listen and learn from him or her, give him or her the patience, love, and time we know each child deserves. We want your baby to know that she or he is truly loved, both by you the mother who gave him life, and by us, the parents who raised him. A child in our home will grow up surrounded by music, dance, the love of knowledge and the opportunities to explore the world.

We want you to feel secure that the baby you placed for adoption will always be in a loving, safe and supportive family. We would be happy to send you updates and pictures as your baby grows and to share with him or her any letters, photos or mementos that you want him or her to have.

Thank you again for reading our letter, we hope you have been able to discover a little about us and to consider us as loving parents for your child. If you would like to speak to or meet with us in person, please contact Cindy Simonson at A Act of Caring (any time of day or night!) 1-800-556-5635.

Sincerely,

Daniel & Maxine

If you would like to learn more about us or to arrange an initial phone call please call Cindy (anytime) at A Act of Caring (800) 556-5635.

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